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Have you ever fell in love with a human as you got older?

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PonyLove

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As a young lad in school, I remember seeing a few girls that made my heart skip a beat. As I got into highschool, I knew one girl that I found super attractive. She made me feel totally different than from being around any other girl. I wanted to be with her all the time. I worshiped every word she said to me. Unfortunately, she hated my guts. In my early 20's I meet a few women that gee made me feel like they were something. Made me feel like I could fall in love with that person. But I was kinda shy too.

But since my early 20's I have not fallen in love with any women or seen a women I could fall in love with. I met quite a few, had sex with quite a few, some pretty attractive, but no love, no heart skipping a beat, no fluttering of the stomach.

Of course all through my childhood and adulthood, I have had animal relations. I am just wondering, did I just not find the right women, has the zoo part of me taken over? Maybe as we age, the butterflies don't happen any more. Of course I had long term girlfriends, but no real love there. Just sex, and relationships of convenience.

Am I alone or has this happened to others? I know there are many happily married zoo people.

I am not intending this to be a zoo verses normal human relationship discussion. There is plenty of that
 
I go into more detail about this Here, but I still wanna bite.

As a young girl I dreamed of romance and love. When puberty hit, I felt a small period where sex was all I could think about. I wanted it just like everyone else did, because everyone said they were these amazing, life-changing things.

But over time, I realized that romance and love with people weren’t really my cup of tea after all. And eventually, I just stopped feeling things for people. Don’t get me wrong, I still find people attractive, but it’s like finding Mona Lisa or some flowers in a field attractive: They’re pretty, but I feel no emotional reaction or desire for them. And I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s because I have my animal partner now, and I don’t really have room in my heart for anyone else. They say depression will cause that lack of attraction, but I can’t imagine I’ve been depressed since before High School without malfunctioning, lol. It could just be that I grew up too fast, and I have more important things in my life to think about. Maybe I just haven’t found the “right person” yet. Or maybe I’m zoo exclusive and just haven’t realized it yet. Who knows? Either way, relationships with humans just don’t excite or appeal to me like they did when I was still young and naive. All I know is that I don’t really feel anything for humans at the moment, and that’s fine by me.

Romance and relationships aren’t everything in life. Maybe you’ll find someone who makes your heart flutter, and maybe you won’t. And there’s nothing wrong with either path.
 
When I was young there were girls that made my heart flutter. As I get older I realize more and more that I don't care about humans as much as I did when I was younger. My animals are everything to me now.
 
Jewelry Fish said:
I go into more detail about this Here, but I still wanna bite.

As a young girl I dreamed of romance and love. When puberty hit, I felt a small period where sex was all I could think about. I wanted it just like everyone else did, because everyone said they were these amazing, life-changing things.

But over time, I realized that romance and love with people weren’t really my cup of tea after all. And eventually, I just stopped feeling things for people. Don’t get me wrong, I still find people attractive, but it’s like finding Mona Lisa or some flowers in a field attractive: They’re pretty, but I feel no emotional reaction or desire for them. And I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s because I have my animal partner now, and I don’t really have room in my heart for anyone else. They say depression will cause that lack of attraction, but I can’t imagine I’ve been depressed since before High School without malfunctioning, lol. It could just be that I grew up too fast, and I have more important things in my life to think about. Maybe I just haven’t found the “right person” yet. Or maybe I’m zoo exclusive and just haven’t realized it yet. Who knows? Either way, relationships with humans just don’t excite or appeal to me like they did when I was still young and naive. All I know is that I don’t really feel anything for humans at the moment, and that’s fine by me.

Romance and relationships aren’t everything in life. Maybe you’ll find someone who makes your heart flutter, and maybe you won’t. And there’s nothing wrong with either path.
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When I was young, I always thought love and sex were sort of separate. I could have sex with anyone, so I never associated sex with love. I had a 10+ year relationship with a woman and we sort of grew onto each other. I'd say after a period of time I sort of thought I was falling in love. (like the song lyric, "I was sort of getting use to being in love") . But it never really happened. I guess one can fall into love just as easily to fall out of love. Of which the latter I have never experienced.

Yes which ever way it goes I am fine with it. I love my life and my animals.
 
PonyLove said:
As a young lad in school, I remember seeing a few girls that made my heart skip a beat. As I got into highschool, I knew one girl that I found super attractive. She made me feel totally different than from being around any other girl. I wanted to be with her all the time. I worshiped every word she said to me. Unfortunately, she hated my guts. In my early 20's I meet a few women that gee made me feel like they were something. Made me feel like I could fall in love with that person. But I was kinda shy too.

But since my early 20's I have not fallen in love with any women or seen a women I could fall in love with. I met quite a few, had sex with quite a few, some pretty attractive, but no love, no heart skipping a beat, no fluttering of the stomach.

Of course all through my childhood and adulthood, I have had animal relations. I am just wondering, did I just not find the right women, has the zoo part of me taken over? Maybe as we age, the butterflies don't happen any more. Of course I had long term girlfriends, but no real love there. Just sex, and relationships of convenience.

Am I alone or has this happened to others? I know there are many happily married zoo people.

I am not intending this to be a zoo verses normal human relationship discussion. There is plenty of that
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We sound similar, in this respect. I can count the humans I've had sex with. I can't count the critters. And aside from one, never really felt all that much beyond the sexual convenience. That one "sidestepped", and our lives went in different directions. Looking back, I don't really feel one way or the other about it not turning into anything more than it did. ?‍♂️
 
ocumwhowurst said:
Falling out of love is one of the most hurtful things to experience. Thankfully that wasn't my wife. Of 20+years... Still by my side even after outing myself after most of that 20 had passed...
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Well hope you did not have to exerience it.

I had two long term girlfriends over the past 30 years. Both loved me very much, but to be true to them I had to reveal my animal side, of which they understood with no problem. But I felt bad for them as they wanted reciprocal love, which was something I just could not seem to give to them. I could provide a home, a way of life, help with anything, support etc. Love comes from the heart I guess. Its either there or not. I guess many just settle on what they have and call it good.
 
IMHO, falling "out" of love is not only necessary, but mandatory to be able to love again; stronger and better than before ??
You do not know the value of something, anything, until you lose it.
 
Zen said:
IMHO, falling "out" of love is not only necessary, but mandatory to be able to love again; stronger and better than before ??
You do not know the value of something, anything, until you lose it.
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I always liked to company of human females. Had break ups on and off and being by one's self is not any fun. But I am getting up more in age now and just wondering, should I marry to have someone around till the end? Like the ol' saying goes, "can't live with them, can't live without them"
 
Zen said:
Totally wrong reason to.
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Yes, my thoughts too. I'll eventually need some live-in help if I am to keep all the critters though. My health not bad, and the farm keeps me in shape. I am good for now, but time keeps on marching on.
 
PonyLove said:
Yes, my thoughts too. I'll eventually need some live-in help if I am to keep all the critters though. My health not bad, and the farm keeps me in shape. I am good for now, but time keeps on marching on.
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So a ranch hand with benefits? Don't need marriage for that unless it's your path's code :unsure:
 
Honestly, as I have gotten older I have fallen out of love with humans in general. I certainly prefer dogs and just want to keep it that way. It has crossed my mind a few times honestly that It would be nice to have a child, though artificially induced. Though this brings issues, such as who would volunteer, why would they volunteer, etc. I don't want sex from a woman but it would be nice to have a child. I don't know maybe I'm crazy. Its just floated around from time to time. I certainly not want a lover though. Not of the human variety. I would rather stay Zoo Exclusive :3
 
QuantumHusky said:
Honestly, as I have gotten older I have fallen out of love with humans in general. I certainly prefer dogs and just want to keep it that way. It has crossed my mind a few times honestly that It would be nice to have a child, though artificially induced. Though this brings issues, such as who would volunteer, why would they volunteer, etc. I don't want sex from a woman but it would be nice to have a child. I don't know maybe I'm crazy. Its just floated around from time to time. I certainly not want a lover though. Not of the human variety. I would rather stay Zoo Exclusive :3
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It would be nice to have someone to carry on your name
 
Zen said:
IMHO, falling "out" of love is not only necessary, but mandatory to be able to love again; stronger and better than before ??
You do not know the value of something, anything, until you lose it.
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The same people who say this are the ones who would throw you away like a rag.
 
QuantumHusky said:
Honestly, as I have gotten older I have fallen out of love with humans in general. I certainly prefer dogs and just want to keep it that way. It has crossed my mind a few times honestly that It would be nice to have a child, though artificially induced. Though this brings issues, such as who would volunteer, why would they volunteer, etc. I don't want sex from a woman but it would be nice to have a child. I don't know maybe I'm crazy. Its just floated around from time to time. I certainly not want a lover though. Not of the human variety. I would rather stay Zoo Exclusive :3
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I'd like a woman but it's a little... Complicated at the moment.
 
Likely there are all types of women just like men. Not all women go for the macho bold guy, some look deeper into the mind. I typically did better with the more educated I would say. The glamor girl, while fun to look at, probably would not result in a LTR, and be nothing but trouble in the long run.
 
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