Read some of the threads on the subject. The ladies are not a commodity, but they are often treated as such. The pornheads here seem to think they are entitled to far more than they have a right to even think about. Reality check: What do you expect here? Its not a dating site....many of the females here have a partner already, whether human or animal. Assuming they ARE looking , what do you have to offer that is so unique that it can't be gotten from anyone else?
Best suggestion: expect nothing, be polite, act with respect, and POST. Let them know who you are. Get to know them as people, not as five or five thousand easy pieces. Then, maybe, you'll be seen as someone they might wish to know. This isnt rocket science. Its basic human interaction. Golden Rule 101.0
And one last thing...I believe you've been told most of this before. Its no different with time.
Good Luck