ethical questions regarding non-zoo partners

[renny]

i’m not expecting an answer here because obviously questions regarding ethics are super hard to make concrete judgements are. however, i just wanted to ask the opinions of more experienced zoos/zoos more comfortable with their identity than i am. i have a non-zoo partner that knows that heavily identify with animals (being a theria) and knows that i am active in furry spaces and draw/enjoy furry art (both erotic and nsfw). they don’t know anything about my attraction to other animals and i know they would have a very negative reaction if i told them this. they have pets that i have interacted with multiple times (nonsexually!) and that i love but would never ever try to engage sexually with. is it unethical to never mention that i have an attraction to animals? it feels different than disclosing your human gender attraction to me. it would feel silly to have to warn people that i’m queer every time i meet someone new but idk for some reason i feel weird and guilty about this. i love my partner so much but in all honesty i don’t think i’d ever have the guts to talk to them about this. insight from everyone’s experiences/thoughts are appreciated!

 

[WI_GS_Owner]

i’m not expecting an answer here because obviously questions regarding ethics are super hard to make concrete judgements are. however, i just wanted to ask the opinions of more experienced zoos/zoos more comfortable with their identity than i am. i have a non-zoo partner that knows that heavily identify with animals (being a theria) and knows that i am active in furry spaces and draw/enjoy furry art (both erotic and nsfw). they don’t know anything about my attraction to other animals and i know they would have a very negative reaction if i told them this. they have pets that i have interacted with multiple times (nonsexually!) and that i love but would never ever try to engage sexually with. is it unethical to never mention that i have an attraction to animals? it feels different than disclosing your human gender attraction to me. it would feel silly to have to warn people that i’m queer every time i meet someone new but idk for some reason i feel weird and guilty about this. i love my partner so much but in all honesty i don’t think i’d ever have the guts to talk to them about this. insight from everyone’s experiences/thoughts are appreciated!

I don't think it is a question about ethics but what is more valuable, important to you. Since you believe your partner will have a very negative reaction if you told them they may very well decide to end the relationship or decide that you are "sick" and need help. Is the possible ending of the relationship you have with this person worth the risk?

I know from experience that it is very difficult to find someone to be acceptin about this, even though they may not have an interest in it, let alone finding someone to that is interested in it.

I believe the question is... What is more important to you?

 

[renny]

I don't think it is a question about ethics but what is more valuable, important to you. Since you believe your partner will have a very negative reaction if you told them they may very well decide to end the relationship or decide that you are "sick" and need help. Is the possible ending of the relationship you have with this person worth the risk?

I know from experience that it is very difficult to find someone to be acceptin about this, even though they may not have an interest in it, let alone finding someone to that is interested in it.

I believe the question is... What is more important to you?

that’s a good point… honestly i’m still trying to figure that out for myself. a lot of my attraction still remains human and my relationship with my partner is one of the most meaningful i’ve had in my life. im not sure if im willing to potentially throw that all away yet. thank you for the insight!