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double life... and what it does to U

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zOOfan_HH

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Hey beastlovers,

I am interested in how you deal with this tendency in life and how it influences you to move in this taboo zone
I'm curious to hear your opinions

best regards :)
 
Zero interference and more privacy, even if I think things are working out, life throws a curveball but in spite of that, I push through, the only challenge I have is that the prices are increasing, horse feed and dog food becoming expensive but that won't change or stop me for caring for my animals, they are #1 priority to me. Nothings else does matter, but my animals do matter to me.
 
Yes that is the key…to the outside world I am just a regular dog person and I have a pet dog. It is a double life and it is necessary in this world.

I have come to accept it and not be upset or anything. I just have to be be super careful
 
Maldoror said:
It is hard to convince people about being "normal" when you are 40+ and have no human relationship history. It would be easier if I say I'm gay, but I'm not. It's a daily struggle.
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I am 37,and was single since 2003, with no human relationships and it's perfectly normal
 
Maldoror said:
It is hard to convince people about being "normal" when you are 40+ and have no human relationship history. It would be easier if I say I'm gay, but I'm not. It's a daily struggle.
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Thats a good point. I'm in my 30's but a little different.

Iv been in plenty of human relationships with women so its not from lack of trying and dont get me wrong I love women iv just had no luck finding the right one.
I guess this lends a hand in my direction to appear normal in public/in front of friends and family ect. They would never suspect a thing because iv had my dogs for many many years and in that time iv been in several human relationships. I'm basically just a single guy who has a couple dogs with bad luck in the dating world. That's not so abnormal.
 
Maldoror said:
It is hard to convince people about being "normal" when you are 40+ and have no human relationship history. It would be easier if I say I'm gay, but I'm not. It's a daily struggle.
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I have think about your words and know about what you mean. But don´t give up! keep fightin ;) special hugs
 
very special thanks to you, friends :)
It helps me a lot and i find it very interesting to hear or read other peoples opinions about that.
And i´m glad and thankful for all your honesty and trust at your answers.

special regards :)
 
knotjen said:
Our sexual interests and proclivities are private matters and don't need to be broadcast out in the world, so from that perspective it's no more of a "double life" than anything else we might be interested in.

I run with my dog every morning and I can guarantee no one seeing us together has any idea that come evening, most likely, my dog will have the opportunity to rearrange my insides.

The perception of duality with this (and other things) comes from whatever internal mechanism we have which deemed this wrong or shameful or something like that. That is an internal mechanism though, and since the public world will likely look down on us and shun us for this particular proclivity, we explore it in a vacuum and it's that vacuum that amplifies what we feel and how we feel it.

At least for those who have some kind of internal struggle with it. I do and I always have, though long time ago I accepted it as "it is what it is" and made a conscious choice about it.

The reality is if there is no harm to person or animal, it's your private business. If you keep it that way, there is little to no actual duality. It's "head trash".
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Bravo! Very well said, I’m of the same belief and acceptance of myself. Yes, “society” at large may find this/myself offensive but that is not my concern nor burden of shame to bare. Why should I be deprived of pleasure and joy simply because someone else disagrees w/ the manner in which I choose to find it as long as no one is forced or harmed and all are consensual. I feel no more of a need to feel ashamed for enjoying this any more then I do for enjoying kissing or oral sex. I am perfectly secure and accepting of the things I enjoy sexually and do not need the permission of others in order to feel ok w/ it.
 
I used to think it isolated me but it really is that most people will take from you and like you as long as you are providing them with something but if you can't anymore they either disappear or say how they are being wronged. So I choose very carefully who I get close to and it takes a long time.
This part must remain secret and there are different ways of doing that. I tend to be nice and quiet in most instances. One I know just makes jokes about many kind of sexual interests all the time and can be saying the truth but no one believes because they are used to that kind of humor from them.
How you handle it is very individual but it is one part that really doesn't need to be shown. It doesn't make any one good or bad. It doesn't make you less of a friend if someone doesn't know. Everyone has things they don't tell others either at all or very few. It doesn't have to definite you as a person if you don't let it.
 
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