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Pittbullvr420

Pittbullvr420

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I'm starting to feel like I must be totally retarded and dont even know it or something. It's been a little over a year since i broke up with my girl and I have been on like every dating site since. I didn't expect much but the fact I have yet to match with anybody at all is really starting to get to me . Of the handful of girls who matched not 1 has responded to anything I've said. I've tried a bunch of things like changing pictures and totally different bios but nothing seems to have any effect. I can literally like every single person on FB dating for hours on end and I never get any replys like how is it possible that not 1 chick has any interest ..... not like posting this will do me any good but I need to vent I guess
 
Pittbullvr420 said:
I'm starting to feel like I must be totally retarded and dont even know it or something. It's been a little over a year since i broke up with my girl and I have been on like every dating site since. I didn't expect much but the fact I have yet to match with anybody at all is really starting to get to me . Of the handful of girls who matched not 1 has responded to anything I've said. I've tried a bunch of things like changing pictures and totally different bios but nothing seems to have any effect. I can literally like every single person on FB dating for hours on end and I never get any replys like how is it possible that not 1 chick has any interest ..... not like posting this will do me any good but I need to vent I guess
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Happy 420! FB dating sucks. I met.some.guus off there and it was lame.
 
Yo. Dating sites are just ass period. I tried that shit myself and got nothing but a bunch of bots and spam.
I even tried several paid websites thinking I'd get better results since I paid for it but nope. Iv heard stories......rumors really of online dating actually working but iv never seen it myself. Getting out and meeting people the old fashioned way is WAAAAAY better. You know it's an actual person, it's free and you get a definitive yes or no nearly instantly.
You get a "no" and you say ok cool and move on. You get a "yes" and you see what happens. Maybe it works, maybe it doesn't but point being is it beats the shit out of sitting at a computer or swiping on your phone. You get up, get dressed go some place you like and go do something. Personally the dog park is my favorite place to meet women. You already have something in common with a women at the dog park so it's an easy conversation starter. Maybe she isnt...like into...INTO her dog ( or maybe she is who knows ) but regardless it's a great place to start plus your dog's gets to run, play and be goofy.
 
I gave up on using dating apps and sites. A long time ago I tried out Tinder. One swipe right and the app crashed. Don't waste time believing the ads, since it's just paid actors. Usually going out in the real world works better.. I think there were a couple of times there were some hints when meeting out with women, but never went with it.
Also, the thing with FB is tons of fakes. I even get random friend requests because of a trucker group I'm in. FB of course does nothing about it. The best way of seeing if they're fake is how recent their photos were uploaded, and how clear and crisp every photo is. No amateur is going to take time in polishing their photos, unless it's an obvious filter.
 
Online dating is shit.

Try to meet someone in meat space, go to the park, take up some hobbies, volunteer at a charity.

Swiping and messaging on apps is not going to be rewarding especially for a guy. Dating apps are full of bots and people just looking for validation, plenty of the profiles with real people are literally just there to make sure people are "matching" and messaging them, no intention of actually dating.
 
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I'm starting to feel like I must be totally retarded and dont even know it or something. It's been a little over a year since i broke up with my girl and I have been on like every dating site since. I didn't expect much but the fact I have yet to match with anybody at all is really starting to get to me . Of the handful of girls who matched not 1 has responded to anything I've said. I've tried a bunch of things like changing pictures and totally different bios but nothing seems to have any effect. I can literally like every single person on FB dating for hours on end and I never get any replys like how is it possible that not 1 chick has any interest ..... not like posting this will do me any good but I need to vent I guess
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Sorry to hear that. I guess even the pandemic made it more complicated bc even in 2017 I was ashamed to tell people I met my bf on a hook up app. Now everyone is like on the apps and became the norm. Haven’t read the entire thread yet but have you try this site? I mean I don’t know what your face looks like but I’m sure you are quite good looking. And if you own a dog you are a good caring guy. Hope things have changed since your posted this ☺️
 
Dating sites/apps are ass. For basically everyone. Guys have a hard time being noticed, but girls probably have it worse. Every woman I've talked to about it has had a miserable experience using them, because 80% of their interactions with guys online turn out to basically just be harassment, of some kind or another. So, they just start ignoring most guys, because most guys aren't worth whatever tantrum they'll throw if they don't end up clicking.

The best advice I can give you is to just live your life. Being too desperate is unattractive, but people can sense it, even if you try to hide it. Make peace with yourself, try to figure out what you want out of life, and how to pursue it, whether someone is with you for the journey, or not. You're more likely to meet people that like being around you if you're happy with the life you're living. And, honestly, in my experience, it's easier to find relationships, when that's not what you're looking for, if that makes any sense. Almost all of the girls I ended up being with, whether we met online or irl, weren't people I was pursuing. We just met and started talking.
 
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Go outside. Meet people doing things you like to do. Study how to ask someone out on a date without being creepy or "alpha" (yuck). You can do it, I believe in you!
 
Dating is not hard, you just have to be realistic about what you want and whether or not you can attract that. I mean really be serious about it. If you're a hard 4 and you're looking to attract a hard 8 then you're gonna be single for awhile.

What kind of women are you looking for and do you know what those women are looking for? It's like fishing... you gotta know what kinda fish you're trying to catch, learn what lures/bait to use, figure out where they are, get the proper gear, then get your ass out there and start casting knowing that you can be out there all weekend and catch nothing however you're maximizing your best chances...

Sounds to me like you picked up the clearance fishing pole at Walmart, some cheapo hooks, and the cheapest bucket of worms... then went to the edge of a great lake and casted away hoping you'd get a marlin or something of the sort...
 
Pittbullvr420 said:
I'm starting to feel like I must be totally retarded and dont even know it or something. It's been a little over a year since i broke up with my girl and I have been on like every dating site since. I didn't expect much but the fact I have yet to match with anybody at all is really starting to get to me . Of the handful of girls who matched not 1 has responded to anything I've said. I've tried a bunch of things like changing pictures and totally different bios but nothing seems to have any effect. I can literally like every single person on FB dating for hours on end and I never get any replys like how is it possible that not 1 chick has any interest ..... not like posting this will do me any good but I need to vent I guess
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What do you look like?
 
Pittbullvr420 said:
I'm starting to feel like I must be totally retarded and dont even know it or something. It's been a little over a year since i broke up with my girl and I have been on like every dating site since. I didn't expect much but the fact I have yet to match with anybody at all is really starting to get to me . Of the handful of girls who matched not 1 has responded to anything I've said. I've tried a bunch of things like changing pictures and totally different bios but nothing seems to have any effect. I can literally like every single person on FB dating for hours on end and I never get any replys like how is it possible that not 1 chick has any interest ..... not like posting this will do me any good but I need to vent I guess
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Sorry to hear that man
 
Pittbullvr420 said:
I'm starting to feel like I must be totally retarded and dont even know it or something. It's been a little over a year since i broke up with my girl and I have been on like every dating site since. I didn't expect much but the fact I have yet to match with anybody at all is really starting to get to me . Of the handful of girls who matched not 1 has responded to anything I've said. I've tried a bunch of things like changing pictures and totally different bios but nothing seems to have any effect. I can literally like every single person on FB dating for hours on end and I never get any replys like how is it possible that not 1 chick has any interest ..... not like posting this will do me any good but I need to vent I guess
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Yeah well I think I'm there with you I've been doing this for a couple years and I still haven't got to hook up every time I turn around they want me to buy something take them to send them money that's a joke why do they play this game I'm serious and they're not
 
It's pretty well established that the dating sites are all a scam at this point. They have no financial incentive to help you meet someone special. If you matched with someone stable you would stop paying them right? Their algorithms are set up to keep you dangling on their hook just like every other engagement algo these days. It's all a scam, all of it. Go join a boardgaming group in real life or a book club or something.
 
CanineCarouser said:
It's pretty well established that the dating sites are all a scam at this point. They have no financial incentive to help you meet someone special. If you matched with someone stable you would stop paying them right? Their algorithms are set up to keep you dangling on their hook just like every other engagement algo these days. It's all a scam, all of it. Go join a boardgaming group in real life or a book club or something.
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I would have to agree I have been trying to get stuff set up for meetings for about 4 years but nobody seems to want to go
 
I just have the strange feeling that you are all struggling because y'all aren't the kinds of men that women want. If you can't be an entertaining man that stands out from the crowd then you will blend in with the crowd and women will just look for someone that can meet her needs. Sorry to say this but y'all are just not enough as you are.
 
I've not had any issues finding girls to date on both tinder and bumble. I have had issues finding ones into - zoo - there. Im not sure if your issue is getting dates to begin with or them not being zoo.
 
Maybe I'm off on a tangent here, but it made me thinking. I haven't dated much because I wouldn't look forward to having to hide my love for the mares from a human girlfriend, and truth to be told, I fantasize mostly about mares. But that's not the only issue here. Yes, I tried dating sites, but no success. Yes, I tried hooking up when out on the town, but no success. In both cases, I fear my little spot on the autism spectrum is acting out its gremlin role. Mind you, my autism diagnosis is not an excuse but an explanation. I know I struggle with human non-verbal language. I find the background noise in the pub too distracting to go there to have a date, not to mention the flashing lights everywhere. I would assume by now there could be dating sites for neurodivergent people, but whether I should look there....
 
Honestly online dating is no longer a good option given how the internet has developed. It was good near its introduction, but has worsened over time due to it being flooded by bot accounts and the like. Many dating resources also prioritize appearance due to it being the easiest trait to express over the internet, so unless you are extremely attractive it will be a struggle. The best you can do is try to talk to people in public settings and hope something connects.
 
Demigod said:
I just have the strange feeling that you are all struggling because y'all aren't the kinds of men that women want. If you can't be an entertaining man that stands out from the crowd then you will blend in with the crowd and women will just look for someone that can meet her needs. Sorry to say this but y'all are just not enough as you are.
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More toxicity. Very trashy. Don't worry guys, the kind of girls this person is talking about (and the kind of person this person IS) are not worth your time anyway. Rather beat it to pictures of turnips for the rest of my life than spend an hour at dinner with someone like this.
 
CanineCarouser said:
More toxicity. Very trashy. Don't worry guys, the kind of girls this person is talking about (and the kind of person this person IS) are not worth your time anyway. Rather beat it to pictures of turnips for the rest of my life than spend an hour at dinner with someone like this.
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Women see right through men like you. And I do too. You will learn the hard way or you will never learn at all.
 
Demigod said:
Women see right through men like you. And I do too. You will learn the hard way or you will never learn at all.
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Not sure if this means men shouldn’t have standards, or if this person knows some personal secret about Canine.
 
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