loosenreadyyy
Lurker
Would it be best to live in secret about this, and be amongst the people that are into it as well? Or is there ever a chance of being able to come out?
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nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
there's nothing to "come out" about. what you do in your bedroom is your and your partner's business. being able to share literally anything besides "yeah, we also fuck" is not "living in secret".
AloneOnPhobos
Zooville Settler
Getting weight of your chest and being accepted as the person you are, no lying why you dont have a partner would be my ideas, why people want to come out.
nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
only benefit i can see is being able to have "my girlfriend has more tits than yours" printed on a shirt or something...
why is there any weight to begin with? "accepted" how? to go "as a zoo..." in every reply everywhere or what? what's with the need to be "accepted" with something that is nobody else's business?
loosenreadyyy
Lurker
apologies if this may have been a stupid question ! was just curious
ibanfadlan
Tourist
It's because it's a cathartic experience. We are a social species....it's natural and beneficial for us to seek community. Privacy is tantamount no doubt, but it's better to experience the journey with others. It's something to share, to have a common denominator. What other way to find others than a coming out?
AloneOnPhobos
Zooville Settler
There are people who are exclusive zoo and they might cant bear it to live a lie when friends or family ask when they will introduce a partner or why they are single. Of course you can answer "Its not your business", but I can imagine some people would feel much easier when they just tell the truth.
nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
and being a zoo prevents you from seeking any community how?
ibanfadlan
Tourist
It can easily happen if the person themselves don't accept that truth. They will actively repress their natural desires and yes can prevent solidarity.
nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
since this thread is not about accepting oneself, i have no idea what are you trying to say.
ibanfadlan
Tourist
nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
i don't think so. i mean, one has to accept themselves first before seeking acceptance from others, no? not to mention there's very little to no possible gain from seeking this particular acceptance. more so if one happens to have a non-human partner...
ibanfadlan
Tourist
Maybe OP is at a crossroads of sorts. Like establishing identity or identity crisis.
nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
well, the op just called this whole thing "a kink" on a different thread of theirs so i'll go out on a limb and assume it's not "identity crisis" level thing. "a kink" is a hardly a significant part of anyone.
loosenreadyyy
Lurker
I’m fairly new to this so please bare with me if I use wrong terms/misword some things. It’s never my intention too.
I do not see any benefits of people knowing you are doing something that is illegal in 99% of the world.
If it is just your parents it is probably ok (but only if you have a nice relationship with them) anyone else will likely use that knowledge against you the moment you break up, piss them off...
Zoo is not widely accepted yet and likely will no be anywhere in the near future. The more people know you are a zoo the more in trouble you potentially are.
If it is just your parents it is probably ok (but only if you have a nice relationship with them) anyone else will likely use that knowledge against you the moment you break up, piss them off...
Zoo is not widely accepted yet and likely will no be anywhere in the near future. The more people know you are a zoo the more in trouble you potentially are.
I have solved this problem with my parents without sending them to hell or telling them I am zoo.
I said that I do not feel any need to have a girlfriend. I do not have that urge in me so I am not acting on it.
Mortimer snerd
Tourist
Why is it that some people have a need to share every shred of themselves so they can be fully accepted? Why do people need to be 100% accepted? Does this include the pool guy or the checker at the market? Where does it all stop? If only we could be comfortable in our own skins and quit polling the world as to whether we're okay.
People should think about the possible and probable reactions of friends, family, coworkers and neighbors if they find out you're an "animal fucker". The number of bridges you could burn is substantial. Is it worth losing friends, family and a tolerable workplace to share something that isn't anybody else's business? Why do people pressure you about this shit? In my experience, they're checking if you measure up to what they think is normal. Is this really the sort of person you should be sharing with? All it takes is one person to lay your whole life bare. As if this isn't a shocking piece of news that's fun to share. Human nature sucks in this case.
While I have guilt about this subject, it doesn't mean I'm going to throw myself under a bus to feel better on a superficial level. Have I ever been asked if I'm a zoo? No, so I've never lied about it.
For those compelled to share, I obviously don't understand you, but wish you the best of luck.
People should think about the possible and probable reactions of friends, family, coworkers and neighbors if they find out you're an "animal fucker". The number of bridges you could burn is substantial. Is it worth losing friends, family and a tolerable workplace to share something that isn't anybody else's business? Why do people pressure you about this shit? In my experience, they're checking if you measure up to what they think is normal. Is this really the sort of person you should be sharing with? All it takes is one person to lay your whole life bare. As if this isn't a shocking piece of news that's fun to share. Human nature sucks in this case.
While I have guilt about this subject, it doesn't mean I'm going to throw myself under a bus to feel better on a superficial level. Have I ever been asked if I'm a zoo? No, so I've never lied about it.
For those compelled to share, I obviously don't understand you, but wish you the best of luck.
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nekdoneco123
Esteemed Citizen of ZV
my guess is that 99% of these "but i don't wanna lie!" "there's weight on my chest!" "i wanna be loud and proud" etc sort of ppl don't even have a partner (human or non-human)... they'd see the risks otherwise.