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ZetaGirl

ZetaGirl

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So recently my husband found me scrolling on Zooville, and I came up with a lie real quick. I told him one of my friends who was a furry linked me this, getting the wrong idea. I got scared and disappeared for a while. I've had numerous near misses.... And I don't know how much longer I can hide. I don't want to lose my husband but my zoo-feelings have been so strong I feel like it's only a matter of time. It might be easier to take the brunt of his judgment if I come out than it is to hide, because I know he will not support me.

Does anyone have any experience? Is there a way to come out to make things easier, or is it just a matter of navigating the fear and frustration?
 
I wanted a relationship with somebody but I can never find the right people, what's the time it's cuz I'm told I'm too ugly for them or to old or they get jealous of my animals. The life of a zoo sucks at time but the love I get from my animals is more then I ever got from a human
 
I'm an overweight transgirl and somehow I have always had luck with beautiful people but no luck with animals haha....
 
ZetaGirl said:
I'm an overweight transgirl and somehow I have always had luck with beautiful people but no luck with animals haha....
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Easier to said than done but listen your heart
Animallover said:
I am a 44 old male that had a hard life, have not been in a relationship with a human in 13 years but got quite a few animals that love me
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I had a hard life either before, but must admit that now I have good life but I have not been in a relationship with a human in 19 years (because I choose to, I not good into relationchip) I was in love with my dog but unnable to have sex with him, now I try to accept that into my head
Life is far from being perfect but we have to fight and accept who we are
 
ZetaGirl said:
So recently my husband found me scrolling on Zooville, and I came up with a lie real quick. I told him one of my friends who was a furry linked me this, getting the wrong idea. I got scared and disappeared for a while. I've had numerous near misses.... And I don't know how much longer I can hide. I don't want to lose my husband but my zoo-feelings have been so strong I feel like it's only a matter of time. It might be easier to take the brunt of his judgment if I come out than it is to hide, because I know he will not support me.

Does anyone have any experience? Is there a way to come out to make things easier, or is it just a matter of navigating the fear and frustration?
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Try and bring it up in a way to tell him you saw something that you found interesting while looking at the site and ask if he ever saw anything like it. Pick something that you think get his interest and show him. If he rejects it outright, you have to keep further visits hidden. If he finds it interesting, you might make viewing together a warm-up act for your fun together.

That's how most couples handle the situation. If nothing else, he may accept your visiting the site if that's all you do. He probably has porn sites he visits as well.
 
ZetaGirl said:
So recently my husband found me scrolling on Zooville, and I came up with a lie real quick. I told him one of my friends who was a furry linked me this, getting the wrong idea. I got scared and disappeared for a while. I've had numerous near misses.... And I don't know how much longer I can hide. I don't want to lose my husband but my zoo-feelings have been so strong I feel like it's only a matter of time. It might be easier to take the brunt of his judgment if I come out than it is to hide, because I know he will not support me.

Does anyone have any experience? Is there a way to come out to make things easier, or is it just a matter of navigating the fear and frustration?
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I would say, my husband had a childish tantrum over me being a zoo, but he has childish tantrums over everything. He is just being himself. I love him because I apparently have a thing for overgrown toddlers. This is the only explanation that fits.

The question is, can you still accept your husband if he doesn't understand this part of you right away? Can you still accept him if he doesn't like it? Can you still accept him if he behaves not very well over it? Eventually, your husband is going to have a moment of weakness, and you are going to have to face the same question. Whether it is over this or over something else, facing that question is ultimately inevitable, "is he still worth it"? It doesn't have to be about this, but it's going to be about something.
 
If you already know that your husband will not support you then it will be a ton harder to bring it into the open then if you at least thought he might be open to the idea. I've only heard things others have said on the issue and being single my self I can't give you any first hand insight.
One of my GFs showed a zoo porn to her husband to see his reaction and he didn't really say anything so she prompted him by saying things like 'Have you ever seen anything like that?' and when his reaction wasn't one of total discuss she went further by saying something along the lines of 'God that's hot, I'm getting wet just watching it."
He only reacted mildly but seemed curious. After that over the next few days he brought it up a few times before he finally came and asked her if she wanted to try it. Long story short it did work out for them.
By the same token I've heard one girl say that her husband was ok with it at first but later on became super jealous and went on a rampage. They got divorced from what I remember.
I'm lucky that I discovered my animal passions when I was still in HS, and didn't have to risk a marriage to be happy myself. I can only wish you the best and hope your husband understands and allows this for your happiness.
 
I could not imagine being in a relationship with someone and they would not know about it. How could you develop feelings for someone that you could not understand?
 
Why get married to a person you don't already know you can trust? Why tie yourself to toxic people? It doesn't make sense to me, and it will never make sense to me. If you have to even ask yourself if you can trust your partner over this, there are reasons besides this that you ought to turn tail and run.
 
How I handled this:

EVERY single Human partner was told specifically, at the time we were actively dating that I had a "thing" for animal sex.
I based my next move on their reaction to this news. I found that among Gay men, it's not usually a show stopper.
 
ZetaGirl said:
So recently my husband found me scrolling on Zooville, and I came up with a lie real quick. I told him one of my friends who was a furry linked me this, getting the wrong idea. I got scared and disappeared for a while. I've had numerous near misses.... And I don't know how much longer I can hide. I don't want to lose my husband but my zoo-feelings have been so strong I feel like it's only a matter of time. It might be easier to take the brunt of his judgment if I come out than it is to hide, because I know he will not support me.

Does anyone have any experience? Is there a way to come out to make things easier, or is it just a matter of navigating the fear and frustration?
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I will say this from my own personal male perspective...that I would kill to have a wife like you. I would do anything to have a wife like you, and in my relationships when women hide things from me I get very upset, because what they hide is something I like, and what upsets me is the deception and dishonesty.

I would say you shouldn't have married him without first having the two of you actually knowing each other. Once your at a certain stage of marriage and kids, and years of investment, there's no turning back, at least where anything good will be there for anyone. I don't understand why women do this.
 
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