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Can’t tell my friend

montanabear

montanabear

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I was talking with my friend when out of the blue he asked if I knew about therians. In my head, I was thinking this was a perfect time to test the waters to see if I could share that I’m a zoo. I told him yes and that I understand their position even if it’s not something I can relate to, generally being supportive. I thought maybe he was interested in them because why else would you ask about therians like that.

Then he broke my heart by saying he thought anyone who believed they could be an animal was crazy and had to have a mental illness. He even followed up calling out furries liking animals being stupid too.

I always thought this friend would be someone I could see myself coming out to. I was so shocked by him using mental illness as derogatory when he’s medicated for adhd, and has always seemed supportive of anyone’s niche interests. I guess he’s one person who’s never gonna know this about me.
 
then just keep not telling him? it's not like it really changes anything. it's not really his business what you like in the bedroom, is it?

my best friend is very homophobic and if i ever did tell him i'm a zoo it would be out of curiosity whatever he'd be more angry that i'm into dogs or that i prefer male ones (tho not by much).
 
Sorry about your friend and I can understand why you would like it if he was more open minded but a lot of people are jest that way. I can remember when I was a young that homosexual wouldn't and in most cases couldn't out them self for a lot of the same fears we have to deal with today. A lot of you younger people can see a little of what I am trying to express with the bull shit that is going with the transsexuals today.

It would be a much better world if people would jest except that people are not the same and we all have the right to live our lives in peaceful friendly way and that everyone should be excepted for who we are and not who or what others think everyone should be.
 
Just so you know, often the psychology behind things is that people hate in others what they dislike about themselves, so it could be entirely possible that your friend has desires that he’s struggling with! Obviously don’t tell him anything but I find it’s much easier for me to be empathetic towards people when I remind myself that they’re probably struggling with the idea that they’re interested in something that they have a lot of shame about.
 
Sorry to hear it didn't work out :(
You're quite brave. I've been testing the waters irl with someone and getting some suggestive responses but not sure yet. Identifying other zoos is a skill set I just don't have yet
 
montanabear said:
I was talking with my friend when out of the blue he asked if I knew about therians. In my head, I was thinking this was a perfect time to test the waters to see if I could share that I’m a zoo. I told him yes and that I understand their position even if it’s not something I can relate to, generally being supportive. I thought maybe he was interested in them because why else would you ask about therians like that.

Then he broke my heart by saying he thought anyone who believed they could be an animal was crazy and had to have a mental illness. He even followed up calling out furries liking animals being stupid too.

I always thought this friend would be someone I could see myself coming out to. I was so shocked by him using mental illness as derogatory when he’s medicated for adhd, and has always seemed supportive of anyone’s niche interests. I guess he’s one person who’s never gonna know this about me.
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"Can't tell my friend." No, you cannot tell ANY friends, family, doctor, psych or clergy. NO ONE! Especially not that alleged friend of whom you spoke. THAT is a person who will tell your other friends, your family, exes, likely even the police. Life, as you know it, will be over.
I do NOT understand this strange urge people have for telling someone. People need to understand, there really some things about your life that you can't stand on the rooftops and shout to the world, FFS.
 
Kristy said:
I do NOT understand this strange urge people have for telling someone. People need to understand, there really some things about your life that you can't stand on the rooftops and shout to the world, FFS.
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Yeah, of course I know all the life destroying consequences that come with telling the wrong person. But I don’t want to keep lying when I hear people make an off hand comment about bestiality and everyone jumps on ripping on zoos. I can’t imagine going my whole life like this hiding from every possible connection in my life.

“bla bla bla mental health issues from keeping secrets” kind of mindset I guess
 
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