A Rock And A Hard Place

[Pinedog]

Hey, guys. Backstory incoming.
I used to have two dogs of my own. German Shepards. One male and one female. They ended up having puppies and one of them I grew very attached to.
Now, my grandmother has her. She's such a beautiful and wonderful girl. I really want to be with her in every way and every time I see her, she seems to reciprocate the feeling. I've lost sleep over her but I'm so happy when I do get to be with her.


I guess what I'm asking is has anyone ever been through something similar and is there any way I could find some way to be with her? My best play is saying I would want to "take her for a walk" but everytime I'm there, it just feels like everyone can sense the tension lmao
I'm not sure how to just randomly say "I want to spend more time with your dog" or offer walks or anything without seeming shady as that's something I wouldn't usually do.

I want to be around her so bad and not just sexually. I guess I'm looking for any, some sort of advice on the situation.
I've got a girl I love and can't be with lmao

I'd appreciate any sort of help on this. Maybe a different point of view, right?
Thanks.

 

[pes]

This happens sometimes. I know someone who frequently fell in love with animals they did no own.
It is not a good idea.
When it is not your dog, keep your feelings in check and keep some healthy distance. Otherwise it only leads to pain.

 

[MypupandI69]

I fell for a golden retriever that belonged to a friend I tried to remain close until I had to move places. After that every time I saw him it broke me so no I'd stick to getting your own companion. If not it will be hell for you and for that dog especially if she gets attached to you and decides to run off or stop eating if she can't be around you.

 

[nekdoneco123]

my first crush (also the first i felt something deep for) was a boy of someone else and it was the fucking worst. i can't say how many times i cried myself to sleep over him, because it's like you said, you can't just go "can i spend more time with your dog? take him/her for a walk?".

meeting my now late George is what helped me get over him, not completely (you can't just stop having feelings for someone) but it did help a lot. falling in love with somebody else's animal is additional curse on top of the curse "we" already have....

the sooner you get your own companion the better.

 

[Goattobeloved]

Same story here, basically.

Fortunatelly (for me) she was very good at running away, and even staying "on the wild" even for a few days or until she found me and gave them her back.

Yes, that combination of sour and happiness, but still would not change it at all. She totally gave my hope and life back in years I was below low.

 

[Pinedog]

Hey guys. A bit of a follow up here. This particular girl is one I've known since she was born and I've seen her a couple of times more since the original post. I have tried to keep my feelings in check and that's worked out great. However, I cared for her for so long that it seems she "knows" that I care for her and she will beg at the window when she hears my vehicle. It is so hard "leaving" her but I've been getting better at it. I really appreciate the advice and sentiments. I will keep trying to be better at accepting it ?