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Feeling of guilt

Blossom_Ruby said:
Hey, I would like to know some stuff, first of all...I didn't really know that animals could consent, how do they show that?
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Honestly, @K_9River_rat and @marelover999 have absolutely hit it on the head with their answers; it's about being able to say "no" and making sure that both parties are not only OK with it at the time, but are also able to withdraw their consent at any time without repercussions.. Just like between humans!
I don't want to restate everything that's been said before because those two really did a fantastic job describing it ❤️, but take for example me and my GSD boy. When we're both in the mood, he leads me to the bedroom, I bend over, and we mate. That's it! There are no restraints, coercion (treats or training to make him "perform" on queue ?), holding him down, etc. If at any time he or I decide no more fun, then it stops immediately. And that has happened before, from both of us calling it off. That absolute trust and openness is "consent"; both of us are free to do or not do as we please, without guilt or harm.

I also want to second what was said about either starting a new thread or adding to this one, this information is amazing to have out there for everyone to see! However, if you're worried, nervous, shy, etc. I'm happy for you to send me a DM and we can chat more privately. I honestly believe education is the key to being a good zoo :gsd_happysmile:
EDIT: Actually, that DM invite is extended to anybody that has any concerns or wants to learn more about consent in animals. There are plenty of amazing resources here (search is your friend) but if you ever feel overwhelmed with the info, just hit me up. I try to be approachable :LOL:
 
I used to for a long time, then I realized I could just let it go. I went through it before with accepting that I'm gay. You realize "society" doesn't have all the correct answers in life at a certain point. "Society" is really really toxic. You have to make up your own mind and take charge of your own life to do what you want to do.

As long as you don't make too big of waves, society will let you push right on through your goals.
 
So lately with this fetish i've been having feelings of guilt (I think)
Is that a common occurrence or maybe a sign i should consider stopping my interest?
 
I can’t say if it’s a common occurrence or not but I’ve definitely experienced it as well. I’d say the best course of action is to find the source of it and consider what you can do about it. If you discover it’s an either or thing (ie you want thing a or thing b but you can’t have both) think about which option would bring you more happiness and don’t be afraid to take action. I realise it seems an obvious solution but it did take someone saying it directly to me to consider doing it. I’ve realised I’ll eventually have to give this up but I’ll have my fun in the next few years before I do that lol. Also remember to always consider your safety, this kind of thing can put you in a lot of hot water. Hope this helps :)
 
If no one is being hurt, and it provides joy in your life, the guilt isn't worth your concern. Society decided it's wrong from some kind of puritan movement and there's no justification behind it. And that's just recent society. Opinions on who you can or can't have sex with are different around the world and change frequently on a historical time scale.
 
It's natural to feel guilty, at first, I know I did the first few times. Mean, I lost my virginity to a dog. Interspecies mating something where conditioned not to do or feel like that it's wrong. But why is it wrong? Because society tells us it is? Fuck them. If it feels good, it can't be wrong. And trust me, it feels amazing. ?
 
We're all mentally shackled to modern day morality in some way. Guilt is a common feeling. You have to craft your own principles and decide what you believe in. If this is something that is dear to you, and you are causing no harm, stand by it. You're not alone.
 
I think its pretty common with the current taboo surrounding zoophilia, but its always been a thing and the moral issue has been everpresent. I struggle with the same problem so I feel you.
 
Everyone is wired differently. There are so many factors involved depending on one’s upbringing, sexual preferences, religion etc …. Sexual relations between humans and animals have been depicted in art and literature since the beginning of civilization. I personally haven’t had a single moment of guilt or regret from the very first experience I had. It just felt like such a natural reaction of instant, dare I say love ❤️ that I had when I realized that I was not only being pleasured, but also pleasuring my dog. I mean every person loves their pets as family of course. But to be sexually active with them and seeing and feeling them being pleased takes it to a whole other level.
 
I also had a feelings of guilt in the past. They came mainly from the lack of self understanding, later when I came to terms with it and found community (RIP Beast forum) that understands me those feelings mostly went away. From time to time I still feel some bugging feelings when I cannot be totally open about it with other people around me.
 
I want to say that it's probably pretty normal. Because of all the laws surrounding it and how villainized even just the desire is, it's easy to question if there's something wrong with you that needs fixed. Even for someone like me who hasn't engaged in any act, but enjoys viewing content and fantasizing, I find myself doing a lot of reflection, thinking about how I don't know anyone I can be open with this about, how if people found out I could lose everything, and I have to go to great extremes to remotely satisfy my urges to a point where I couldn't possibly argue that it's an accident and even if I didn't get any criminal charges, my social life would be over indefinitely. Maybe religion could also play a part in it, but in short, yes. I do often feel guilt, but I think it's mostly guilt related to consequences, guilt surrounding being found out. Maybe that's immature, but it's what I feel.
 
SaraZooville said:
I think it's much more about us girls we care much more strongly about what others think and what others should think about us than what men do, therefore many of us have greater Shame attached.
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I don't know, I felt a great deal of shame for liking this for the longest time. I felt like I shouldn't even have been human in the first place. Took years to accept it all.
 
i wasn't necessarily born zoophilic, but developed the attraction after years of grooming, specifically being forced to engage in acts with animals by men.

because of this, i feel really guilty about my attraction, especially with the things people say about zoos. Im trying so hard to accept myself, but it feels impossible.. has anyone struggled like this?
 
This is a place to find others with similar experiences or feelings and talk about them. You're very welcome here.
 
You're 18 and you've had forced sexual encounters?

Sounds like you need to be talking to a qualified mental health professional, not a random internet forum.
 
Assuming this was before being 18.

I haven't had a forced interaction. But I've had an attraction when younger, and finding others online to chat with and looking more into the lifestyle helped me with guilt. Some of it also involved being with a real dog. My first one so for me it helped set it in stone.

You'll always see talks about people downing zoophilia.
 
saddlebum66 said:
Agreed....If it isnt a BS story, It would be a surprise....No one goes thru that til age 18, and comes out smiling and ready to share.
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sorry! im not really excited or anything, im moreso trying to look for a means to accept myself, and didn't know where else to turn. ive been struggling with this for so so long & was just trying to see if anyone else could relate or provide guidance.

im in therapy and on medication but it's hard for me to bring up.

dartel said:
You're 18 and you've had forced sexual encounters?

Sounds like you need to be talking to a qualified mental health professional, not a random internet forum.
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I am, but the issue is that forcing has lead to an attraction now. I don't know if it's something that'll go away or not, so I came here for support.
 
Being forced, it's not your fault. You didn't ask for it or want it. Up to now, you have no guilt or shame or blame. I know it's easy to say that and harder to feel it, but it's the simple truth.
What you do from now on, is your choice. (I am assuming...hoping.. you are now safe from those people). You need to make a concentrated effort to stay away from people who might drag you back in. In fact, stay away from all people as best you can, simply because you're probably been conditioned into a ready made victim and you and the predators are going to be drawn together, and you'll get sucked back into bad situations. You'll need time to settle and mature where you can handle humanity again.
As for animals, you need to be very cautious. You didn't come by it naturally, you've been conditioned into a sexual response. It's going to be connected to the trauma and guilt you carry with you, in addition to the stigma and judgement that everyone goes through. Stay away from the porn. Stay away from the horndogs on here.
Bottom line, this is basically a forum advocating for sex with animals, not against. But many people here have been through the wringer of depression and guilt, some have been found out and lost relationships with friends and family, so you may find some support or at least company there. You'll also find porn, stories, and encouragement to further your experiences with animals, which may be bad for you....
 
Being here for support is somewhat like filling a Dirigible with Hydrogen, rather than Helium....its simply a matter of time before it explodes in your face.

If force and coercion are issues,you've come to the right place....you'll end up with more of those than you can stand. I WISH you luck, but this is no place to look for help. Even the well-meaning here have ulterior motives. If your therapist knows youre here, you need a new therapist. If you haven't shared this with your therapist, do so. It's another symptom, not a cure.
 
One if you were actually forced that act was criminal in all context of it. Two if you don’t wish it again come to terms and let it go. Three if you find yourself enjoying it come to terms that all though it wasn’t your choice and you wouldn’t have chose it you enjoy it. Be honest with yourself accept yourself. For good or bad you can not alter the past but you can choose your future. You have will find the strength to go forward how YOU CHOOSE!!
 
fawndoll said:
i wasn't necessarily born zoophilic, but developed the attraction after years of grooming, specifically being forced to engage in acts with animals by men.

because of this, i feel really guilty about my attraction, especially with the things people say about zoos. Im trying so hard to accept myself, but it feels impossible.. has anyone struggled like this?
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Not everyone here has a good bedside manner, so you will get some rather blunt and brash responses, but I sorta of went through something similar to you, as far as guilt goes. Just be patient, accept your feelings, don't listen to what others say about it (unless positive), and embrace it until you are worry free.

Welcome to the site, as well.
 
It is probably more about who has forced you thatn the attaction to the animals. If and when you can get your head clear and accept that this was no your fault then if the attraction to animals is still there and it is something that you enjoy then there is nothign wrong with having a pet as your companion. So many girls who have been abused often actually find peace with their pet as they dont judge like people do.
 
I didn’t mean to sound rude. What ever happened in your past weather you had control of it or not, you have to come to what ever terms you can and look to your future. You if you try have the will, fortitude within you to do so. You have to look forward however you find the will within yourself to do so is YOU!!! I wish you nothing but the best be strong!!!
 
i know logically that im not hurting anyone and that the animal is consenting. yet sometimes its really hard to get over the societal stigma of bestiality. anyone else struggle with this and/or have any advice?
 
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